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THINGS TO SAY OR DO, AT THE TIME OF MOURNING

~Write a condolence note
~My thoughts and prayers are with you
~I am sorry to hear about the death of... I know how important they were to you
~I regret that I live so far away from you, especially at this sad time
~I wish I could talk with you, and give you a hug to comfort you
~Even though I can not be with you at this time, my thoughts are with you
~Words seem inadequate to express what I want to say to you
~I am sorry you have to go through this
~I am available to talk with you, whenever you feel you are ready to talk

THINGS TO AVOID SAYING OR DOING AT THE TIME OF MOURNING

~I know how you feel
~It's part of God's plan
~Your young, and you can marry again
~Look at what you have to be thankful for
~They are in a better place
~Now you can put this behind you, and move on
~Call me if you need anything
~Doing all the talking
~Statements that begin with "You should..."
~Making decisions for them
~Discouraging all emotions or expressions of grief
~Promoting your own values and beliefs
~Encouraging them to be dependent on you
~Dominating their time
~I am sorry for your loss

Dealing with unresolved, childhood grief...

I went to the bookstore this weekend, and was drawn to the book " The Mourning Handbook" by Helen Fitzgerald. I have never related to a book this much. While reading, I felt as though she was talking about my life. Here is part of that book..."Unresolved childhood grief is the state in which an adult, having suffered the death of a loved one while a child, remains trapped somehow in the mind-set of that child because of failure to resolve his or her grief." I have felt this way for over 30 years, and appreciate this book, because it validates my thoughts and feelings.

Power of Money:

We all know that money is a source of power but what we may not know is that we all have the potential to be rich. Our false beliefs are what hind us from fulfilling this potential, and the false ideas we have about money is what prevents us from collecting it.

Personal Power

What do you think makes people rise after being knocked down? What distinguishes those who rise from others who fall on account of the same blow? It’s the ability to control your emotions when others fail to do so and it’s the ability to change the surrounding conditions when others give up and fall helplessly. Fortunately, this sort of power can be acquired through both, self-understanding and personal development.

Timetables

Honor your own timetable for sorting out your spouse’s personal things, for changing the message on the answering machine, and taking care of the other pending tasks. The added tragedy of loss is that many of us are also left to cope with the mechanics of a business and must contend with all of this at a time when we feel unable to cope with anything. Look to family, professionals, and trusted friends – don’t be afraid to ask for help.